Intensives for

Pre-marital, Individuals & Families

Now offering Intensives Virtually, online,

through the internet via Zoom



Where:  Carlsbad, Pasadena California or Virtually online via the internet on Zoom

When: 2 days - 9:30am to 4pm, email for available dates

Format:  You schedule your own private intensive with Alan Hart.  In-depth journey where you and your partner will learn, process, complete exercises and get to the heart of your relationship cycle and explore what it will take to make your marriage work and last.

Cost:  Email for cost

growYou Individual Intensive

Where:  Carlsbad, Pasadena California or Virtually online via the internet on Zoom

When: 2 days - 9:30am to 4pm, email for available dates

Format:  You schedule your own private intensive with Alan Hart, Dr Sharon May, Linda Stewart or one of the experienced Safe Haven Team, for a life-impacting experience.  


In-depth journey where you will learn, process, complete exercises and get to the heart of your issues, dragons, and explore what it will take to get through life's struggles and be the best version of you.

Cost:  Email for cost


Preparing for a Happy and Healthy Marriage 

If you are thinking about getting engaged, or planning on getting married, this intensive will help you gain a clearer idea of the healthy and unhealthy patterns in your relationship. You will learn what makes a lasting marriage and how to foster a safe haven marriage.  You will discover the strengths and struggles of your relationship, prepare for the future and what it will take to make your relationship the best one it can be.​

Dating Couples - Understand your relationship in a deeper way as you consider getting engaged.  Get to know yourself, each other as you discover what it will take to step toward marriage.

Couples planning on getting married - Discover what it takes to foster a happy and lasting marriage.  Understand the way you love, argue and talk through difficult differences.  Learn what works, what hurts, what needs to change and what you will need to accept.   

Don't start your marriage without proper preparation.  This will be the most valuable gift you give each other and your marriage.

growYou Intensive for Individuals 

   The Safe Haven Intensive for Individuals is a meaningful and very informative way for individuals to grow as a person, move through struggles, difficulties, transitions, be the best version of themselves and discover how to meaningfully live out their vision for life. 

   The intensive allows individuals to make 6 months personal growth progress within a few days.  It is a life-impacting experience. 


    The focus of the intensive will be personalized for your specific needs and goals.

The Intensive Will Help You:

  • Understand how your personality and life experiences have shaped who you are as a person and create the lens through which you view life, yourself and others 

  • Gain insight into your relationship style and  ‘cycle’ and the dragons and emotions that fuel it

  • Gain insight into your ‘coping style’ and the ways you react and deal with yourself, others and life

  • Find ways to manage your stress, burn-out, anxiety, depression and addiction 

  • Get to know yourself and who you are choosing to become

  • Gain new perspectives on your old problems: marriage, family, difficult people, career, losses, transitions, disappointments, hurts of your heart

  • Re-evaluate where you have been, where you are, where you are going so to clarify your life goals, values and heart directives and clarify what you really want from this season of life as you prepare for the next

  • A time for spiritual direction and renewal … get re-centered on what really matters in life

  • Get away from your routine and responsibilities and focus on what matters so you can be renewed, refreshed and ready for what is next

Intensive for Families

   Families are complex and filled with differences, conflict and pain.  Yet we are all born into families and are shaped by them. How to love well in our family is of great importance and has a big impact on our life.  

Families - young families or blended families - This intensive is set apart for the parents who are wanting to discover how to foster a family vision, healthy connecting rhythms, and establish values and rules.  As well as set developmental appropriate boundaries so children learn, blossom and flourish.  Blended families can explore and find solutions to challenges unique to blending two different families so to foster a safe haven for all. 

Families with Adult Children - These intensives are to help families with adult children connect in meaningful ways.  Often parents are unsure how to launch adult children, or there remains unhealthy patterns and conflicts which keep families arguing or disconnected.  This intensive helps a family heal the hurts, establish new ways of relating so to foster a safe haven family. 

NOTE: The family intensives are currently on hold.  Parents can request an online, virtual option via Zoom for parenting tips and to create your own family vision and mission statement, family rules and clear consequences.  As well as creative ways to connect.


When:  Friday 5:30pm to 8pm and Saturday 9am to 4pm 

Format:  Teaching, time for couples to process and personalize the material, as well as group interaction, marriage-impacting

Taught by:  Alan Hart, Sharon May and Safe Haven Team

Location:  Safe Haven Relationship Center, Carlsbad, Ca

How to Register:  Email grow@havenofsafety or

call 626-614-4555

NOTE:  The Couple Group Intensive is currently on hold until further notice.  Couples are encouraged to sign up for a virtual, on-line experience through the internet using Zoom.

Family Intensives

Where:  Carlsbad, California

When: 2 days - 9:30am to 4pm, email for available dates

Led By: Alan Hart, Sharon May or one of the experience Safe Haven Team

Format:  You schedule your own private intensive for a family-impacting experience. 

Location:  Carlsbad, Ca

Cost and registration:  Email for cost and registration information

Couples Group Seminar

   The Safe Haven Marriage Seminar is a meaningful and very informative way for couples to walk through the Safe Haven model, understand how they love and argue and begin healing the accumulated hurts.  Couples learn how to change their negative argument cycle, talk through difficult topics, share a vision for their marriage and family and how to stay connected so to foster a Safe Haven Marriage.

   During the intensive each couple will chart out their argument cycle, identify their dragons and amygdala hijacking that fuels their argument (you’ll just have to attend to understand what that all means), and understand how the way they react keeps their negative argument cycle in motion. Each couple will gain an understanding on how to change their negative argument pattern, talk from their softer side and share emotional needs so their spouse can not only hear but understand how to move toward one another in a caring manner.  

    The Safe Haven Marriage Intensive is very different to other kinds of couples therapy and retreats. That is because of the well known marital model the intensive is based upon, the positive impact of the group experience as well as focusing for several days in a row has on a marriage.

   For lasting change after the Safe Haven Seminar, you can sign up for the podcasts, zoom seminars and other fun and meaningful ways to continue to grow your ‘Safe Haven Marriage.’


The Safe Haven Intensives are based on the most well-researched and highly successful model of today, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), for couples, families and individuals. The model shows a 75% rate of total change and 90% rate of significant change.  The Safe Haven Relationship model integrates Emotionally Focused Therapy with faith, attachment theory, neurobiology of arguing and getting along, what shapes character and makes a good life, making the experience meaningful, life-changing and relationship-impacting.

NOTE:  We are offering online, virtual pre-marital and growth intensives via the internet using Zoom

Contact Us 


We look forward to hearing from you

2888 Locker Ave, East, Suite 102

Carlsbad, CA 92007