Safe Haven Couple Intensives
Is your marriage in crisis?
Are you and your spouse hurt and disconnected?
Are you longing for healing?
We offer a healing journey
SAFE HAVEN MARRIAGE INTENSIVES
WE ARE NOW OFFERING MARRIAGE INTENSIVES
VIRTUALLY, ONLINE, VIA ZOOM
FROM THE PRIVACY OF YOUR OWN HOME YOU CAN MEET VIRTUALLY ONLINE VIA ZOOM WITH EITHER ALAN HART OR SHARON MAY FOR A MARRIAGE-IMPACTING EXPERIENCE.
THE SAFE HAVEN MARRIAGE INTENSIVE is a chance for couples to heal long standing hurts, understand their destructive arguing cycle, begin a healing journey to emotionally re-connected and once again (often for the first time) experience each other as a safe haven. The intensives are with one couple and one counselor, so you benefit from the personalized experience.
The Safe Haven Intensives are able to get to ‘the heart of the issues’ and begin making sense of and healing a very negative marriage relationship. Most couples say the intensive is different to any kind of couples work they have had previously. The marriage intensives are based on Emotionally Focused Therapy, the most effective model out there.
The Safe Haven Intensive gives a couple the much needed time and a safe place to share deep hurts, get to the core of what has shattered trust, process betrayals and gain a real understanding for each other. Then begin to change the negative ways of relating and foster an emotionally connected marriage.
The intensive format and unique model is powerful as couples are able to focus on their marriage for several days and gain understanding and healing that often takes months of counseling or coaching. Weekly sessions are often more disruptive than helpful. The intensive format enables a couple to stay in the healing process and journey as they go through all the steps without interruption. Couples often stay hurt and disconnected when they don't need to as the intensive format is marriage-changing.
A couple meets privately with either Sharon May, Alan Hart or one of our well-trained, experienced leaders, in a private setting. Our main office is in the beautiful beach community of Carlsbad (San Diego). Although every couple walks through the Safe Haven process, each intensive is personalized to the specific needs and crisis of the couple.
Most couples come to the intensive feeling wounded and hopeless. Many are dealing with infidelity, betrayals, accumulated hurts, unresolved issues, distance, overwhelming differences and negative ways of dealing with difficult issues and frustration.
THE SAFE HAVEN INTENSIVE MODEL
The Safe Haven Marriage Intensives are based on the most well-researched and highly successful marital therapy model of today, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). The model shows a 75% to 80% rate of change from distress to a safe haven and 90% rate of significant improvement. The Safe Haven Relationship model integrates Emotionally Focused Therapy with attachment theory and neurobiology of arguing (with real life application and much humor), making the experience meaningful and marriage-changing. Although we can't guarantee your outcome, by attending an Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) or coaching based intensive you are giving your marriage the best care and chance possible.
HOPE FOR CHANGE
If you feel stuck, disconnected and not sure if you and your spouse will ever heal hurts and enjoy each other again...the intensive is worth the investment, work and effort. Or if you feel your marriage could be richer, deeper and needs a renewal, then the intensive will help take your marriage to a closer, more intimate place. The intensive will help you foster a ‘safe haven marriage.’
SAFE HAVEN INTENSIVE OPTIONS
Below are the various options for a marriage intensive. The length of your intensive is based on the time you have available, the experience you want, and the level of distress in your marriage. Of course, more time we have the more work can be done. That is why we recommend the 2 1/2 day or 3 day intensive.
2-DAY SAFE HAVEN INTENSIVE (for couples not in crisis)
1st day - 9:30 am to 4 pm
2nd day - 9:30 am to 4 pm
2 ½ -DAY SAFE HAVEN INTENSIVE
1st Day – 9:30 to 4 pm
2nd Day – 9:30 to 4 pm
3rd Day – 9:00 to 12:30 pm
3-DAY SAFE HAVEN INTENSIVE
1st day - 9:30 am to 4 pm
2nd day - 9:30 am to 4 pm
3rd day - 9:30 am to 4 pm
4 Day EXECUTIVE INTENSIVE
The 4 day intensive is specially designed and personalized for the couple who wants an executive indepth experience. The extended time allows for much change over the few days. This is our premier option and if you have the time, it is a powerful experience.
NOW OFFERING ANY OF THE ABOVE INTENSIVES ONLINE CONFIDENTIAL AND VIRTUAL
THE 9 STEPS COVERED DURING THE INTENSIVE
1. Understand the distress in your marriage and how you and your spouse got to where you are
2. Understand your argument cycle and how it keeps you emotionally disconnected
3. Make sense of the hurts and wounds that have built up over the years
4. Learn how to talk from your hearts about your fears, hurts, needs & emotions
5. Begin a journey of healing past hurts, including attachment injuries, infidelity & betrayals
6. Begin to see each other differently as you build understanding and acceptance
7. Learn new ways to argue, talk, connect and relate to one another
8. Learn to grow and foster a safe haven where each feels loved, cared for and understood
9. Talk about and resolve the hot topics (that typically trigger arguments) in more constructive ways.
If you are in a difficult season in your marriage, the Safe Haven Intensive will guide you through healing and growing your marriage relationship. No matter if your marriage only needs a tune-up or is filled with hurts or betrayals, the intensive can help you foster a ‘safe haven marriage.’
We would like to offer you hope.
The Safe Haven Marriage Intensive is very different to other kinds of couples therapy. That is because of the well known marital model the intensive is based upon, as well as the impact focusing for several days in a row has on a marriage.