Frequently Asked Questions
WHAT TO EXPECT DURING THE SAFE HAVEN INTENSIVE
- Couples intensives begin at 9:30am and end at 4pm
-You will work with your intensive counselor/coach all day, with a break in the morning
-You will have a lunch break to relax and refuel, as well as a time to process all you have worked on
-In the afternoon, you will continue to work with your counselor and at the end of the day will be given an exercise to do to expand and solidify what you are learning
-At the end of your intensive, you will collaborate with your counselor as to a follow-up plan so to encourage your continued growth and maturity, as well as keep the changes in your marriage
-We will consult with your therapist to help your continued support
-We will provide tea, coffee, but please feel free to bring with you any goodies that will help you get through the day, and yes, dress comfortable as you will be sitting all day.
-In preparation it might be good for you to review the history of your relationship, the hurts and stuck places, and what you want to work on during the intensive.
HOW DO I SIGN UP FOR AN INTENSIVE?
If you are interested in an intensive,
1. Please email us for further information, pricing and available dates ( or call 626-614-4555).
2. We will email you the details, as well as pricing and dates available.
3. Select your dates, then complete the introductory form and return it to us with your deposit information.
3. At that time, we will confirm your intensive.
4. You can then book your airflight and hotel accommodations.
We will help you each step of the way, so to make the process of scheduling the intensive as smooth as possible.
WHERE DO WE STAY?
You would fly into San Diego, California and stay at a local hotel of your choice. You will then meet with Dr Sharon May, Alan Hart, or your qualified counselor in Carlsbad or Pasadena, California. If you are local, we recommend you put your responsibilities and distractions on hold, for the several days of the intensive.. This way your full emotional attention is given to the intensive, and evenings are spent processing, relaxing and preparing for the following day.
WHAT INTENSIVE DATES ARE AVAILABLE?
We usually have space available 3 weeks of each month. Please email for specific dates. Know that dates fill up quickly, so let us know your first option as soon as possible.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SAFE HAVEN INTENSIVES AND OTHER INTENSIVES?
Safe Haven is based upon Emotionally Focused Therapy, the most well researched therapeutic model resulting in significant and lasting change. The Safe Haven model walks a couple through an intentional, in-depth, meaningful process with well trained leaders. Dr May has conducted about 800 individual couple intensives over the past 25 years. And thousands of couples have gone through the marriage-impacting Safe Haven experience. Many couples prefer an individual private intensive, so to have the personal direction of their intensive leader.
WHAT IF MY SPOUSE IS UNSURE OF ATTENDING?
It is best to allow us to send information to you and your spouse so you can both read the material and make a decision. If your spouse knows that the experience is not to pressure, punish or find blame, but rather to build understanding of both perspectives, they are more likely to attend. You can attend the intensive even if you are not sure whether or not you want to stay in the marriage. The intensive will get to the heart of your pain and disconnection and from a new understanding and perspective discover what it will take to heal and rebuild your marriage. The intensive will help you discover it. You don't need to figure it out before you attend.
IS THE INTENSIVE COVERED BY INSURANCE?
The intensives are not covered by any medical health insurance.