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To foster Safe Haven relationships, we need to be emotionally present.

When our attention is re-directed to Facebook, text messages and catching up on what others are doing, we are not able to be emotionally present with our spouses, children, friends or our current task. To be a Safe Haven for those around us we need to learn to be emotionally ‘present' give our full attention, and be emotionally 'available' to listen, feel and really understand what the person we are talking with is saying and needing. 

Maybe your relationships could benefit from taking a digital detox.


Digital Detox: Refers to a period of time during which a person refrains from using electronic connecting devices such as Smartphones and computers. It is regarded as an opportunity to reduce stress or focus on social interaction in the physical world.


Reading this definition, I think we all could benefit from a digital detox. We check our smartphones about 81,500 times each year, or once every 4.3 minutes of our waking lives. According to a recent report majority of people would rather go without food and other daily staples than be without their mobile devices, which shows that doing a digital detox is not as simple as it sounds. 

Taking a digital detox will help us find some balance between Facetime and face-to-face time. 


“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything.

1 Corinthians 6:12


Here are some of the benefits that come from doing a digital detox:

  • Disconnect to get to know yourself again and reconnect with people you love.

  • Renew your love relationship with God.

  • Receive the benefits of getting into nature – improved mood and sleep.

  • Experience the world around you without the desire to document it.

  • Gain confidence to do mini-digital detox moments during the week.

  • Thrive in your real life and relationships.

Studies tell us that the majority of the people who try to do a digital detox will not be successful, which reveals how addicted we have become to our devices. To be successful at doing a digital detox will require you to have a plan and to anticipate some of the obstacles you will face. 


The Digital Detox Plan:

  • Disable your notifications so you don’t hear the dings and pings.

  • Set your phone to airplane mode.

  • Make a phone motel out of a small box and place your phone in it during your digital detox.

  • Reconnect – have plenty of face-to-face conversations.

  • Get outside in nature – take a walk or hike, breath fresh air.

  • Do the detox for an hour, a day or a week.

  • Use an alarm clock so you are not tempted to look at your phone in bed.

  • Tell friends and co-workers about your digital detox plan for accountability.

  • Pray about your relationship with technology and that it would be honoring to God.

These are simple ways that we can detox from our devices and create some space. Doing a digital detox gives us space and allows us to think. It allows us to be present with those around us and helps us reconnect with ourselves, and with God. From time to time, we each need to detox from technology.


Growing Together,




Dr. Sylvia Hart Frejd

Director Safe Haven Relationship Center

Relationship Coach


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